Andi Pilecki, MS, LPC
My approach is rooted in a psychoanalytic frame, and based on the idea that we all develop ways of viewing the world and ourselves through the different experiences we have. Our thoughts, perspectives, emotions and behaviors develop in a context influenced by multiple intersecting factors. This context is unique to each individual, therefore, each person presents with unique cognitive, emotional, and interpersonal experiences.
My primary role is to support you as we discover together the dynamic nature of your internal world, and the ways in which this informs your interactions with the world outside. I prefer to understand “symptoms” as creative adjustments to life’s many challenges. Our work is not to “fix” you, but rather to support you in developing insight and awareness regarding the ways in which you have adjusted to your unique context. When this context has been impacted by difficult or traumatic experiences, we adjust as well as we can. In relation to these stressful circumstances, our adjustments are adaptive because they enable us to survive and to cope. As life goes on, however, and circumstances change, these responses often remain the same and begin to interfere with our optimal experience of life. Something feels wrong, but we don’t always know what or why. Perhaps we find that we keep having similar problems at work or school, at home, and in other relationships and settings. We may feel lost or stuck, and even guilty for not just “getting over it”.
From my perspective, our task is to help you develop a fuller understanding of yourself, the creative adjustments you've made, and relational themes and patterns that emerge in your life. Some common therapeutic objectives are discovering what is underneath typical symptoms such as depression and anxiety, making connections that support growth and change, and developing an ability to have more satisfying relationships, with others, as well as with yourself.
As mentioned, my therapeutic approach is primarily informed by psychodynamic and psychoanalytic theory. In practice, this results in an environment where we will focus on how the past is alive in the present, in interactions and experiences both in and outside of therapy. Therapy offers a space where you can have greater connection with yourself in order to heal and work toward personal integration. As this process evolves, many individuals find that presenting symptoms, such as depression or anxiety, are alleviated or become much more manageable. Furthermore, therapy can support you in having a richer, more satisfying life.
It is important to know that because of the emotionally rigorous nature of a depth-oriented psychotherapy, sometimes things can feel worse before getting better. It is also important to know that my style of working does not involve advice-giving or problem solving. This can be difficult at times, but I believe firmly that therapy is most effective when answers and connections emerge from within, through an engaged therapeutic alliance.